My Connections to Play

When I was a child, I remember playing all day long. I would go to a daycare during the day and we would play dress up and climb on the rocks outside pretending to be good guys and bad guys. The best days were when the caregivers would let us take the dress up bin outside. We would use costumes and pretend to be cops and robbers and princesses and doctors. At home, I lived in a condominium that owned many acres of woods and trails. Our families would let us roam the woods as long as we were back by dinnertime. I remember my mom telling me many days to "go outside and don't come back until it's dark". The most fun I had was simply exploring- it was really cool to find old (broken) tree-houses, bottles, old tires, and other 'junk' in the woods (it felt like we were discovering it). When I was very young, I remember my family would let me go outside to play as long as I stayed within a certain distance (we used an old rock-wall as a boundary) and I would ride my bike and my scooter and run around and play with the other kids in the condo's. I learned so much from this unsupervised play, it really built a foundation for me to be a confident person and to trust myself and my abilities- I have fond memories of getting stuck in mud, of breaking my arm falling off a bicycle, and other things that weren't fun at the time but taught me lessons about myself. Play taught me about myself and about my interests and skills and helped me make sense of my world.
Unfortunately, nowadays, play has changed a lot. Parents are so afraid to even send their children outside because it is so risky nowadays. Moreover, a lot of people live in areas where there are few play spaces for children (a lack of open woods, a lack of playgrounds, etc). Though we had PlayStation's and other types of screen media when I was a child, we did not use them like the children today use them. I babysat a young child for several months who would use his Nintendo from the time he got out of school to the time he went to bed. I think we are seeing more and more of this type of play as well as structured activities in the lives of young children. Childhood and play is definitely not the same as it used to be. Play was essential to my life, and I hope that it can regain its value as a central focus in the lives of children today and in the future.

Relationship Reflection

There are many people in my life with whom I have positive relationships. Below, I identify five people with the most positive relationships to me and describe the aspects of the relationship that characterize it as positive. I also detail the factors that help those relationships remain strong.

1. Rich- my fiance. I maintain a strong partnership with him because we have open communication and we live together so we see each other every day. We share a common vision for our future and have committed to this vision. We work together to achieve many things, including taking care of our animals and house. He and I maintain our relationship by doing new things, making sure we have humor, and spending quality time doing things together and enjoying the company of one another. We share a strong relationship because we communicate not only about our wants but also our emotions.

2. Rachel- my friend. Though we live far apart, we maintain a very strong relationship. We began our relationship in school where it was reciprocal; we worked together in a childcare classroom twice a week, and as we experimented doing things wih the children, we learned how to be in sync with the children. We recognized our personalities as complimentary, me being intrinsic, and her, extrinsic, and used this to our strength in the classroom. As we engaged the children together, we developed a closeness and appreciation for one another. We began helping each other with schoolwork, and the relationship blossomed from there. She is now my best friend and soon to be Maid of Honor. She and I have a well-developed sense of one another's personality and we just 'mesh well'. We maintain this relationship despite the long distance even when we do not see each other for long periods of time. It seems that we pick up where we left off no matter how long it has been.

3. Ali- my friend. We met because we have similar family circumstances and she and I understand one another's emotional experiences. We grew up together, which is something I cannot say of any of my other strong relationships and looking back at our teenage years together, I think of all the fun positive things that we experienced together. I think this is one of the strengths of our relationship- we have fond memories of growing up together.

4. Jess- my coworker and friend. We share a partnership because we work in a 'pod' together caring for young children. Her toddler room is next to mine and they are separated by a walk-through kitchen. We partner with and support one another in practical ways (covering bathroom breaks, sharing materials, passing children when we hit ratio) and other ways, like offering emotional support, sharing advice, and sharing our home lives with one another. We have spent time at one another's house. This relationship thrives because I see her every day and we can talk during our breaks and, briefly, on the playground. This is a positive partnership because we support each other emotionally inside and outside of work.

5. Kelsey- my coworker and friend. This is a very strong partnership because we too are friends and coworkers. Moreover, we went through the same bachelor's program, completing our degrees just one year apart. Kelsey and I were friends at school and I developed a type of partnership with her then because we helped each other with homework, especially with classes I had already been through as she was completing them. In turn, Kelsey was a listening ear for me during my transition from knowing nothing about children to becoming a confident teacher. Kelsey and I strengthened our partnership when I invited her to my workplace to complete her final practicum, and later helped her get a job at my childcare center. Even now we are strong partners because we discuss, in a safe relationship, work related issues and support one another and be reflective through ethical challenges.

Being reflective through ethical challenges is an incredible strength that I developed through relationships which are essential in work with families (especially in developing partnerships with families). I strongly believe that the most important lessons I learned from my undergraduate program did not consist of knowledge or skills but rather dispositions- the dispositions I developed early in my work with children are my strongest assets as a teacher and they stem from relationships with my peers. With Ali, my relationship encouraged reflection as we were able to share experiences of growing up together. We continue to reflect on these experiences and learn from our errors even now. Reflection is one way I work toward becoming a better teacher- I think about the things that happen with the children and families in my care and I work toward providing best-practice interactions with them. Reflection is an asset of mine, and I began to develop this skill through strong early relationships and partnerships.